I’m not sure why I have to do this. I think everyone understands bullying when they see it but some people – you know who you are – for some reason pretend that some bullying behaviour isn’t bullying after all because you super don’t want to be.
You’re the people I’m talking to. I want you to justify that attitude using the same sort of criteria by with you judge everything else. That’s all, I’m a skeptic and I’d like us all to be skeptical.
So let’s take bullying back to school days. How would you consider a child bullied by its peers?
Scenario 1: child says something, another child disagrees, first child calls second child a bad name. Second child is therefore a bully. The bad name is really all there is, it doesn’t hurt anyone all that badly and is unlikely to cause much in the way of future angst. The second child could apologise and perhaps no harm would have been done.
Scenario 2: child is unconventional in some way and is subjected systematically to abuse that has little or nothing to do with what the child says or how it behaves. For years and years and years this child is subjected to name-calling and maybe physical bulling on the grounds that some other kids think it is OK and funny to do so..Apologies can’t fix that. Apologies from whom? Super-sorry for being a tiny part of making your life shit for years….. doesn’t really cut it.
But anyway, scenario 1 isn’t bullying, is it? Scenario 2 is, isn’t it?.Don’t you agree?
But let’s have a look at Scenario 2a: Child says things in public that other people dislike. Rather than attacking what was said, they attack the person, with the same enthusiasm as in scenario 2 because the child is already bullied.
Go ahead and tell me why that’s not bullying. Go ahead and tell me why scenario 1 is the same as 2 and 2a and therefore why 1 is also bullying.
I think we all recognise what sort of behaviour is bullying behaviour. I’m against people bullying each other. The people I’m talking to are for it. They don’t like to argue from a level playing field, they like to argue that things like status quo automatically get points.